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interview with breakup-help

Interview with breakup help

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Interview with breakup help owner and founder Shanice Goodhew. The interviewer is Joy Millani of the inspiring Podcast and channel ‘Girl, Just startup’.

Click here to listen to the full interview on how to be your true authentic self. It is focused on how to achieve success based on our own beliefs and ideas!

This piece is a great listen if you are interested in finding out some background information about us here at breakup-help. Find answers to how breakup-help was founded and find out the ethos behind everything it does.

This blog post reiterates the importance that is held here by us, to showing positive results by use of it’s programme with our clients. It’s priority will always be about getting people feeling better after a relationship breakup.

The most important thing to us is to get people feeling better after a relationship breakup. This is what we always work so hard to achieve. It is always such a wonderful feeling when we achieve this. Because someone goes from feeling sad, lonely, abandoned and unhappy after a breakup to feeling happiness again.

If you enjoyed this interview, why not head over to our other interview blog post here to find out more about our owner and founder of breakup-help!

You can also book a free 20 minute chat with our specialist relationship breakup coach here.


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How to deal with a breakup in quarantine

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How to deal with a breakup in quarantine. Breakups are hard in normal conditions and during a pandemic will be even more of a challenge. Here are 5 tips to help you if this is happening to you.

1) Communicate with people.

Activities that are usually available to us as a distraction aren’t as readily available anymore so meeting with friends or going out as we would have before may not be possible. Communicate with and reach out to family and friends wherever possible- ask for help.

2) Allow yourself to be sad.

Don’t think just because the pandemic is happening and everyone is having issues and problems surrounding it that you can’t feel sad and express that. Be kind to yourself as you would be to a friend.

3) Take up a new hobby.

One positive thing the pandemic has probably given us is more time. Time to do something new that makes you feel good. Replace the time you spent with your ex with something new for yourself.

4) Social distance yourself from your ex!

Block them on everything and get rid of everything that is a trigger for you hurting. This can be a challenge if you are still living together but make it your priority to be away from them and focus on yourself.

5) Engage in distractions.

If you can’t meet friends in person, have a long telephone conversation or dinner over zoom! Treat yourself to some new make up or clothes and meet new people (this is still possible in a virtual way!), join an online fitness class or just focus on something for your own health and wellness.

Those are my top 5 tips for how to deal with a breakup in quarantine. If you need help getting over your ex, book a free 20 minute chat with me here.


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Why am I not getting over my ex?

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Why am I not getting over my ex? The question you ask yourself because everything seems so hard and you just can’t work out how to move on. Here are 5 major reasons why you are stuck and unable to move on from your ex.

1-You are lonely.

You are used to being with that person and talking to them, spending time with them. Maybe you had them around whenever you need them. You might have cut off friends or spent less time with friends during the relationship. Now feel like you are lonely. The best way to combat this is to make time for your friends and family again. Go out and do what makes you feel good and be surrounded by others.

2-You are still connected on social media or through friends.

You can see what they are getting up to and what they are posting about throughout the day. This is reminding you of them and is holding you back from getting over them. Don’t worry about burning bridges or looking like the bad guy, look after yourself first.

3- You lost confidence during the relationship.

If you started to feel unappreciated or unacknowledged by your partner while you were with them then it is likely that you blamed yourself. Maybe you lost some confidence. This is not a reflection on you and use this time to build yourself back up.

4- You are not accepting all the negative things and are only focusing on the good times you had.

This is illogical and it is vital that you work to recognise the reasons why they are not right for you.

5- You are grieving the relationship potential.

You are sad about all the things you could have been instead of acknowledging all the things that the relationship actually was!

If you need help getting over your ex, request your free 20 minute chat with me here to get started on your journey to happiness.


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Breakup quotes to help you move on from your ex

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Breakup quotes to help you move on from your ex and also because sometimes you need to give yourself a little pep-talk! Remind yourself of what is truly important to you and what you need and want in life.

Sometimes we settle for less because we have gotten used to the way things have been for a while. Habits and routines naturally develop. But remember what you deserve and what you want from life! Make the change to be happier. Here are the breakup quotes to help you move on from your ex.

breakup quotes to remind you of what you really deserve
sometimes you have to forget how you feel and remember what you deserve
breakup quotes turned into a butterfly
Just when the caterpillar thought it’s life was ending, it turned into a butterfly.
breakup help stop chasing the wrong things
The right thing can only catch you when you stop chasing the wrong things.
breakup quotes is that man for you
If there’s no consistency, loyalty,stability and respect then leave it alone, it is not for you.
 let go of it and care about yourself more
Sometimes you need to let go of people, not because you don’t care about them but because you care about yourself more.
breakup quotes be alone not lonely
It’s better to be alone than to be with someone who makes you feel lonely.
breakup quotes move on from yesterday
You don’t move on from yesterday by talking and thinking about it all the time, you move on by removing it’s effect by being in the present.
 sometimes do nothing
Sometimes the bravest thing to do is to do nothing.
 to make you feel better and rise above it
Don’t get mad, don’t get even. Do better, rise above it so high that you can’t even see it.
started a fire but now she cannot be put out
You started a fire in her soul and then left her shivering in the cold. She gathered what embers were left and became a fire that can never be put out.

If you are going through a breakup and need one on one support and guidance, book your free 20 minute chat here to get started now.


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How to get better sleep

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How to get better sleep?! A question that a lot of us are asking lately! Adults need between 7-9 hours of sleep each night to ensure optimal functioning. But with modern day schedules, technology and stress this can be hard to maintain.

Here are some basic sleep hygiene tips to help you get a better sleep:

1- Make sure your bedroom is cool and dark

2- Avoid caffeine from mid-afternoon onwards

3- Avoid all screens for at least an hour before bed. 

4- If you wake in the night don’t lie there awake- get up, go to another room and do something non-screen related until you are sleepy again.

5- Ensure exposure to daylight in the morning and in the daytime.

6- Get yourself a good mattress! You should get a new one every 7 years.

7- Try out a weighted blanket. This really works for some people!

8- Avoid sleeping in- even on weekends!

9-Exercise during the day- morning or early afternoon and not too close to bedtime.

10- Breathing exercises! ( See my other article on good breathing exercises)

Also, a final note- don’t overlook the way that some food and drink can make you sleepy before bed such as; chamomile tea, cherry juice, almonds, walnuts or bananas. These have all been shown to help with sleep.

These tips won’t address any intrinsic or medical issues such as sleep apnea or restless leg syndrome, however, they may help to remind you of what you can do to generally improve your sleeping. If nothing is making a difference, seeing a sleep specialist may be helpful.

Sometimes going through a breakup can cause us issues around our normal routine with regard to a number of things, for example, with how much sleep we get. If you need one-on-one guidance on getting over a breakup, you can book a free 20 minute chat with me here.


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a list of books to read after a breakup

Books to read after a breakup: Top 5

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Books to read after a breakup or even just in general, that are my must-reads for building confidence and for viewing life in a more rational and positive way. These are the top 5 books I believe every woman should read in order to feel like they are not alone! Not only are they informative but more importantly they are incredibly relate-able.

1) The insecure girl’s handbook, Liv Purvis. Don’t let the name fool you- you don’t have to be feeling insecure when you read this! This one is for all those times you compared yourself to others on instagram or beat yourself up over not doing what everyone else is doing…..

2) Sorry I’m late, I didn’t want to come, Jessica Pan. This is so great for reminding you to do the things that scare you/step out of your comfort zone.

3) Good vibes, good life, Vex King. A book for wisdom and inspiration.

4) Whole again, Jackson Mackenzie. For rediscovering yourself after a breakup.

5) It’s okay to feel things deeply, Carissa Potter. Uplifting and positive. A good reminder that it’s normal to feel deep emotions. Sometimes we just need a reminder that we are human and are allowed to feel things deeply and express this as long as we remember to eventually get back up after a fallback we are all good.

I hope you enjoy this ‘books to read after a breakup’ list as much as I did! If you need personal 1 to 1 support for getting over a breakup, I offer a free 20 minute chat- book yours here now.


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Movies to help you get over a breakup: Top 10

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Movies to help you get over a breakup or at least to make you feel slightly not alone and to give you ideas of things to watch when the girls come over to cheer you up.

Breakups suck! You aren’t really thinking straight because let’s face it, it feels like the world has ended right now. If today you aren’t feeling like leaving the house and need just a day of comfort, grab the ice cream tub from the freezer and turn the TV on to watch one of my favourite movies to help you get over a breakup. Enjoy!

1: Girls Trip. (Maybe you could even plan your very own girls trip)

2: The other woman (female empowerment is always in fashion)

3: The break up ( Good if you lived together)

4: Magic Mike ( To remind you there are people out there hotter than your ex)

5: Magic Mike XXL ( As above, need I say more)

6: How to be single (Some tips may be useful right now….)

7: Bridesmaids (always the bridesmaid never the bride comes to mind…)

8: John Tucker must die (For the cheating exes)

9: Mamma Mia (Very feel good)

10: Mamma Mia Here we go again (because you may as well binge them one after the other now)

Enjoy girls, don’t forget to pair a movie with my self-care tips list.

If you need some personal one on one help getting over a breakup I offer a remote free 20 minute chat – book yours here now.


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Self-care and self-love

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Self-care and self-love is so important because ladies we have to love and care for ourselves! Evolution says that women have an innate need to care for others. This is true, however, I’ve come to realise that in order to do this effectively, we must first be feeling whole in ourselves.

Too often, we as women get so caught up helping everyone around us, taking care of other people, thinking and over-thinking about what other people are feeling/doing/needing/thinking – it’s exhausting just writing about it!

I’ve written a list (don’t we all just love a list) of all the things I personally do to make myself feel loved and cared for by myself and wanted to share this with you.

Spoil yourself- you deserve it! Enjoy my self-care and self-love tips.

1) Self-care and self-love rule number one

bubble baths never get old. Always seems like a faff, right, when you can just get a shower and get on with all the other jobs and things that need getting done…….okay pause— take the time to do this one once in a while because the calming effects are priceless. Lots of bubbles, wine (or a cuppa) a programme or movie (if you have a waterproof cover on your tablet) whilst chilling in the bath will do your mind wonders!

2) Pamper time….

okay I know we are all super busy all the time with a million things to do but this can take as little as 20-30 minutes depending on how OTT or not you go. Put on a face mask, paint those nails, sort those blocked pores on your nose out tweeze away those stray hairs around the ugly sister brow and make yourself feel beautiful. Confidence looks good on you and this pamper time will make you feel super pretty. It’s worth it ladies!!!!

3) Have a friend over for a feel-good girlie movie afternoon/evening.

This is so important… we need to have time with our girlfriends! Put pjs on if you like, pig out if you must, get the popcorn out and have a super girlie movie night. (Even if you do end up missing half the film because you are too busy sharing secrets, laughter and chatting too much…..) this is what it’s all about!

4) Ok this may be my favourite. Get outside!!!

It is so important to get that vitamin D so make sure if you see even a hint of sunshine get outside and get that goodness into your body.

5) You might hate me for bringing this one up but…

exercise is so good for the mind. Honestly you don’t have to cycle or go for a run everyday but find something to do that you enjoy and gets you moving. Dance, buy a hula-hoop, practice yoga, do whatever takes your fancy but this is so so good for us!

6) Eat well!

Okay we all love a treat now and again but theres no getting away from the goodness in certain foods and the fact that naughty food can make us later feel hideous and sluggish. Try to get those veggies in and drink enough of water. We are after all just like a house plant although a little more complicated………

7) Laugh and smile…

whenever you can. Life is wonderful even when we forget that it is. We have all heard that laughter is the best cure. But there is some science behind this! If you smile even when unhappy, you can trick your mind into thinking you are happy and this makes you feel better! Try it now…… smile… you know you want to!

That’s all for today ladies- try at least one of these self-care and self-love tips weekly to start off with. Thank me later!!!

Self-care and self-love comes easier when you have somebody to guide you and rebuild your confidence together with you. If you need one on one personal support to get over a breakup, I offer a free 20 minute chat to get started- book yours here today!


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an interview with shanice of breakup-help

An interview with Shanice of Breakup-Help

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An interview with Shanice of Breakup-Help! Let’s begin. Who or what has shaped who you are?

I have always had a very strong thirst to prove myself. I want to learn about anything and everything. As a child, I would always get frustrated at myself if I couldn’t achieve something or get something right the first time. I’ve always been extremely determinedowever also very introverted. Being the girl who usually knew the answer to the question in class but was too shy to raise my hand and say so!

Today I have become incredibly self-aware, compassionate and reflective in everything I do. My experiences both during my childhood and adult life have shaped the person I am today. This includes my own personal relationships with others. I believe the more I learn to know who I am as a person the more empowered I continue to feel. This is what shapes me as a person.

Why are you passionate about what you do?

What I do requires a high level of emotional intelligence and I have always considered myself an ‘empath’ in so many words. As a woman I believe that it is important to be able to grow through (not ‘go through’) a breakup. This way you can emerge happier and more in control of your future and your life. It is my belief that all women should have a chance to speak openly about how they are feeling and have somebody respond with genuine understanding, knowledge and empathy without making them feel uncomfortable and this is what I am able to do. I have the knowledge and tools to really help women come out of the other side of a breakup.

What motivates you?

Making a true difference in the lives of the people I work with is what motivates me. I strive for excellence in what I do. I look forward to all the positive outcomes and amazing transformations. It’s great to see that I have helped to make that happen.

What are your greatest strengths?

I’m a natural listener and empath therefore, always try to bring positivity to everyone and everything around me. My aim is to make everything in my life beautiful. It is so rewarding to me to dig deep and uncover issues that I can help find solutions to. I enjoy the challenge and I also pride myself on being open-minded and non-judgemental. I’d like to share with others what I know works in order to enrich other people’s lives.

The final question for an interview with Shanice at breakup-help- What is the best piece of advice you’ve had?

There is no such thing as a hopeless situation in my opinion. Every single circumstance in your life can change. Everything is ‘figure-out-able’.

If you are or somebody you know is struggling through a breakup, I offer a helpful and free 20 minute chat to get started on guiding you to a happier you. Book your session now.

If you found this article interesting, head over to our interview with Joy Milani at ‘Girl, just startup’ to read more about the owner and founder of breakup-help here


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Getting Over Someone – 5 Quick Tips.

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Getting over someone – knowing how to do this can be a struggle especially without the right guidance and support. You may be feeling abandoned, lonely, stuck, emotional and like it is the end of the world and it may be starting to affect your life in a negative way.

We all know how upsetting and difficult it can be getting over someone and it is important that you take action to help yourself come out of the other side as effectively as possible.

If you are struggling to get over your ex and need some help to cope with a breakup, here are some quick tips that I recommend you remind yourself of during the process:

5 Quick tips:

1. Talk about it. Vent. This will facilitate your healing big time! Don’t underestimate the value of this. This is what is so important about what breakup-help does! Book your first free chat with us here today.

2. Find an emotional release. This will encourage new perspectives. An example could be to start going to the gym! Or join a boxing club.

3. Find yourself again. It is critical to regain a strong self-concept. Do all the things you put off doing or forgot you wanted to do before the big relationship happened.

4.Set goals for yourself, however small. Always have things you are aiming for.

5. Remind yourself of the bad and awful not just the good things about your ex. Balance our those irrational thoughts. See past the rose-tinted spectacles!

Getting over someone