How to get over a breakup when you feel hopeless and like nothing will help. You are probably feeling like nobody understands and that there is nothing that can make you feel better right now. You will come through the other side of this experience stronger and feeling yourself again. It just takes a bit of guidance and patience. Here are some things that can help.
Try to force some routine into your life. Whether its something as small as making sure you shower once a day or making sure you brush your teeth in the morning. Try to force some form of normality into your life and keep up personal hygiene routines. This will feel like a challenge when you are wallowing in your sadness about the breakup but it will help you feel a little more put together and force your mind to notice some kind of normality.
Say yes to social events and activities. I know, the last thing you feel like doing is putting on your gym wear and going to a fitness class. Besides you may be feeling like you can’t stop crying for long enough to go! Try to find the motivation to at least get ready and show up even if you don’t stay for the whole time. Socialise and take part in activities that boost your confidence even if you don’t feel like it will at the start.
Get rid of the triggers. Yes ,I know you won’t want to do this one because ‘what if we get back together?’. You will be ever hopeful during this stage, thinking things will go back to how they were and you will be with your ex again. If you can’t bring yourself to get rid of things permanently yet, get rid of them temporarily. Hand things to a friend or family member to look after until you are ready. You could also put any photos onto a memory stick and do the same. Hide your ex from social media platforms if you can’t bring yourself to delete or block them. Maybe take yourself off social media for a while until you have healed a little from this.
Talk to someone. We don’t mean a friend or family member. Yes this can help a little but it won’t give you the professional guidance necessary to get you through this experience. Talking through the thoughts and feelings you are noticing will help you make sense of them. A professional can help you to develop positive coping mechanisms.
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