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How do I get over my ex?

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How do I get over my ex? The question I get asked a number of times on a daily basis. It takes a bit of work and a bit of guidance and support but here are some tips to get you started.

1) cry it out. If you feel like you want to cry, do it! Sitting with your feelings and letting them be what they are is a massive part of the healing process.

2) talk it out. You need to talk about the thoughts and feelings you are having. Yes, your friends may be sick of hearing the same things over and over again- speak to breakup-help! Telephone sessions with us can help you get to a much better place after the breakup!

3) say yes. To almost everything you get asked to do or invited to. You need reminding that you can do things without your ex. It will be difficult to find the strength to say yes but once you do it will be incredibly helpful.

4) remember who you are. Rebuild your relationship with yourself. What did you enjoy doing that you stopped doing during your relationship? What plans and goals did you have for yourself?

5) be patient with yourself. It won’t happen overnight! However if you do all the things necessary as mentioned above and as guided by us, you will be well on your way to acceptance and happiness without your ex.

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Get over your ex

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Get over your ex and move on for good. Are you wondering how to move on from your ex after a breakup and don’t know how to? Here are some tips to help you.

1) cry it out. There are going to be days you don’t want to get out of bed in the morning or eat 3 meals like you usually do. It’s ok to wallow in your grief a little. Cry if you need to. Remember this is temporary and you won’t always feel this way.

2) say YES to things. If your friends and family are inviting you to do things with them, say yes. You need to remember that you had a life before your ex! There are things you will find joy in without them, you just need to make yourself try.

3) balance out your thoughts. You will be remembering all the good times and maybe blaming yourself for the breakup. There are things you didn’t like about your ex and there are things that made you feel unhappy. Remember those things! Write them down. Balance out your thoughts.

4) rebuild your relationship with yourself. What were your life goals before your ex? What do you enjoy doing? Get out there and find yourself again.

5) talk it out. You need to be able to talk about all the thoughts and feelings you’ve had during this breakup. Speak to someone who can guide you back to happiness. Book your first free telephone session with breakup-help today!


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How to get over someone

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How to get over someone, advice from a breakup help professional.

Ending a relationship is never an easy thing to do and can be even harder if it wasn’t your choice. It’s important to be aware that although you feel like you will never be happy again or that it’s the end of your world- it isn’t and you will be happy again. You may just need some breakup help guidance and support to come out of the other side.

Here are some top tips to help you along the way:

1) find yourself again. You’ve probably been a ‘we’ instead of a ‘me’ whilst in the relationship. Now is the time to reconnect with yourself.

2) allow yourself to feel sad. It is a sad time, you have suffered a loss. Allow yourself to hurt and feel sad. It’s important to allow yourself to feel what you feel in order to be able to move past it.

3) get rid of old photos. Also, stop stalking them on social media! The sooner you do this the better. You are only hurting yourself more by revisiting these and staying connected to them.

4) talk about it. Over and over again if you need to. This is so important. Your friends may be sick of hearing the same thing over and over again. You may feel like you’re bringing down the mood. So talk to someone who knows you should be open about all those thoughts and feelings like Breakup-help.

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what to do after a breakup

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What to do after a breakup. . . . If you are going through a breakup, it’s normal to feel a range of emotions such as sadness, regret, anger and anxiety. You will not feel this way forever although you feel like you will. Here are some tips to help you along the process.

1) Talk to someone who can help you! Yes you should lean on your friends but sometimes you will feel like you are bringing the mood down or repeating yourself to them and they just don’t know what to do or say to help. speak to someone (like breakup-help) who won’t get tired of hearing how you feel and can give you genuine advice to help you move on.

2) allow yourself to feel sad. You may need to wallow in this for a few days- that’s ok! You are grieving a loss, the overwhelming sadness will pass but first let it exist.

3) get rid of memories or of any opportunity for you to check on them or any chance to stalk them on social media! you need to now focus on yourself. If this was going to work with them, it would have worked at the time. It is not on you to fix the entire relationship if they are not willingly reaching out to you.

4) find goals of your own and aim for those. Speak with long lost friends, reinvent yourself. Do the things you always wanted to do even if it’s just as a distraction to begin with.

5) don’t contact them especially if they were the ones to breakup with you. The ball is basically in their court and begging them probably won’t change things.

Are you going through a breakup? Book your first free 20 minute session now to get started on the journey towards being over your ex.


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Why do I miss my ex so much?

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Why do I miss my ex so much? A question I am asked very often by clients. You aren’t just missing that person, you are missing who you were while you were with them, who you were as a couple. You are feeling a loss because you put so much into your relationship and now it’s over.

How do I stop missing them?

How do I stop missing them? This is another question I often get. Here are my top 5 tips for how to do this.

1) try not to play the blame game. Whether that’s you blaming them, yourself, the situation this is just going to keep you in the cycle of missing them. Stop entertaining those thoughts about what you should have or could have done differently.

2) get rid of all reminders. You won’t want to do this at first because you will still have hope that you will make things better and get back together. Whether that’s getting rid of the photos of you both, buying new bedding, replacing the purse they bought you. These things are all necessary to stop you missing them.

3) Really try to stick to a no contact rule. Every time you communicate with them you are making yourself feel better in the short term but making it harder for yourself long-term.

4) Say yes to your friends and family when they invite you out. you might want to wallow all day and night and by all means do that for a little bit bit then say yes and go out! Do productive things. Do things that will rebuild your confidence.

5) talk to someone. Not just a friend or family member because they will just try to make you feel better but won’t really know what to say. Talk to someone who can help guide and support you through the breakup process.

If you are going through a breakup or are asking yourself ‘why do I miss my ex so much?’ , reach out for your first free telephone chat now!


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How to get over your ex

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How to get over your ex. The very highly searched term in recent times. 2020 seemed to be THE year for breakups. Now we’re deep into 2021 and it’s definitely time to move forward with your life if a breakup is something you have been going through.

I figured since I help people every day to get over relationship breakups, I’d put together a helpful list of things to help you get over your ex.

Top 5 tips

1. Journaling really works. Write down all the things that are coming to mind about how you are feeling and the thoughts you are having. Putting those thoughts on paper are metaphorically taking them out of your mind for a while. It was probably starting to feel a little cluttered in there!

2. Balance out your positive thoughts of your ex with realistic ones. Come on. You know deep down they weren’t really a Prince with perfect everything. Dig deep- think about all the bad stuff too and all the things that used to drive you up the wall.

3. Think about what you have put off doing for yourself or what you have felt held back with. Did you make sacrifices and decisions based on your partner or your relationship? Time to take back your life and own your independence again! You used to be fine before them, remember?

4. Catch up with friends. Old and new. Socialise and say yes to almost everything you get invited to do. You need to be reminded that there is more to the world than your ex and this is the perfect way to be reminded of that.

5. Take time to feel what you feel. Sit with your feelings and make sure you are able to vent and talk about all of the feelings you are experiencing. Book your first free chat with us here.


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Getting over a breakup- let go and move on

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Getting over a breakup-let go and move on. Relationships can have an impact on us long after they end. Something that was such a big part of your life is no longer there, how do you expect the mind to behave!!? Carrying around emotional pain from a relationship can prevent you from moving on. Here are some ways to let go and move on.

Top 5 things

1. Talk to someone. You will be going through some stages of emotions that you might not quite understand. You are essentially grieving the loss you have faced. Be sure to give yourself time and the support you need to recover from what has happened.

2. Embrace your freedom. Think about all the things you put off doing or stopped doing while you were in your relationship. Make plans for your own personal progress and focus on yourself. You will have gone from being a ‘we’ and an ‘us’ to being an ‘I’ and a ‘me’ again so this will feel like a challenge. Reach out to us for some guidance on this.

3. Stop romanticising the relationship and your ex. Chances are they weren’t as great as you are remembering them to be. Balance out those thoughts with thoughts of times when you weren’t happy or didn’t feel loved by them.

4. Sit with your feelings. Try not to bottle your emotions up. You need to sit with your feelings and allow them to be what they are. It’s no good avoiding what has happened. Face up to what you have experienced and begin to heal this way. We can help you with this.

5. Cut contact if you have no reasonable explanation for continuing communication. If you have children or shared a home, it may be necessary. But make contact the bare minimum and make communication only about those necessary things. if you keep that person close, it will prevent you from moving on because you will always keep a small piece of hope for getting back together.

If you need support after a breakup, your first telephone session is free. Book it here!


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How to date during lockdown

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How to date during lockdown. Recently, I have often been asked about this. ‘How am I supposed to meet someone new if I can’t go anywhere!?’ Well, humans are made to socialise- it’s in our DNA! This isn’t just about romantic relationships either. This goes for non-romantic relationships too. During a time like this, socialising is going to be more of a challenge but here are my top tips to help you.

1. Use this time to be more selective about the person you choose to talk to. At a time like this, priorities change a little, if what you want is someone who looks like a Victoria’s secret model just also remember to look at their personal qualities. This is what is going to keep your interest if you aren’t able to see each other. All jokes aside, know what your relationship boundaries are and what your criteria is for a partner. Use the extra alone time lockdown gives you to take more care to find what you really want.

2. Meet remotely with people enough times to know whether you will want to eventually meet in person. This offers more emotional protection and you can get to know a lot about someone through a video date. Ok, so ‘I can’t hear you, you might be on mute’ isn’t the most romantic of sentences but you can really use this chance to make a more informative and genuine impression of someone. (without the vodka shots and that ‘I can’t feel my face’ song booming in the background)…….

3. When you know they are someone you are comfortable with and want to know more about, go for that social distanced walk together (provided you live nearby and aren’t breaking the law).

4. Have a ‘remote’ movie night together (but apart). Both of you can get snacks in and pick a movie together, then go on video call to be able to see each others reactions to plot points and so you can still spend time together even if apart!

5. Don’t be afraid to ask important questions. This may even be easier NOT in person! Take advantage of that and make sure you aren’t investing too much emotionally before you have the answers to the questions that are important to you.

Hopefully you enjoyed our blog today about how to date during lockdown. If you need one-on-one support or guidance with a coach, book your first FREE chat with us here.


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Stop feeling lonely after a breakup

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Stop feeling lonely after a breakup. Are you experiencing a crippling sense of loneliness since you became newly single? You are not alone in feeling alone!

Lots of women are opening up lately about feelings of loneliness. Opening up about feeling this way shows vulnerability and allows others to express their own feelings on the matter. Speaking about it is the first step to stop feeling lonely after a breakup.

These moments of feeling lonely and low will ultimately make you stronger. It will cause you to feel so uncomfortable that the only thing to do is grow from it.

Allow the loneliness you feel to force you out of your comfort zone to meet new people and try new things.

Here are some ideas;

1- get in touch with an old friend who you haven’t spoken to for a really long time.

2- find your passion … the things that sparks fire in your stomach

3- pick a new hobby and dive straight into it

4- make plans. Plan as many things as you can!

5- join a class. Get a friend to go with you if you are nervous.

6- remove toxic people from your life to make room for the good ones!

7- learn to be happy spending time on your own. (I will be posting an article on ways to train yourself to do this next week!)

8- feel lonely and accept it for what it is. That is: a feeling. Allow it to be just that and sit with it for a few minutes or as long as you need. Allow yourself to feel low but then pick yourself back up at some point soon and do something 1-7 off of this list!!!

When you can’t enjoy spending time on your own without feeling lonely it will cause you to stay in bad relationships with people who you lack positive connections with. This is because it gives you a temporary fix of comfort but is not good for you in the long run.

If YOU don’t enjoy spending time with YOU, then how can you expect someone else to want to? But also be prepared to be happy and comfortable on your own and allow positive relationships with people to enhance your life only. Know you will be fine with or without others, because you’ve already built a strong foundation of self love.

If you are feeling lonely after a breakup and need some help, book your free 20 minute chat with me here.


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How to deal with a breakup in quarantine

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How to deal with a breakup in quarantine. Breakups are hard in normal conditions and during a pandemic will be even more of a challenge. Here are 5 tips to help you if this is happening to you.

1) Communicate with people.

Activities that are usually available to us as a distraction aren’t as readily available anymore so meeting with friends or going out as we would have before may not be possible. Communicate with and reach out to family and friends wherever possible- ask for help.

2) Allow yourself to be sad.

Don’t think just because the pandemic is happening and everyone is having issues and problems surrounding it that you can’t feel sad and express that. Be kind to yourself as you would be to a friend.

3) Take up a new hobby.

One positive thing the pandemic has probably given us is more time. Time to do something new that makes you feel good. Replace the time you spent with your ex with something new for yourself.

4) Social distance yourself from your ex!

Block them on everything and get rid of everything that is a trigger for you hurting. This can be a challenge if you are still living together but make it your priority to be away from them and focus on yourself.

5) Engage in distractions.

If you can’t meet friends in person, have a long telephone conversation or dinner over zoom! Treat yourself to some new make up or clothes and meet new people (this is still possible in a virtual way!), join an online fitness class or just focus on something for your own health and wellness.

Those are my top 5 tips for how to deal with a breakup in quarantine. If you need help getting over your ex, book a free 20 minute chat with me here.