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Why am I not getting over my ex?

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Why am I not getting over my ex? The question you ask yourself because everything seems so hard and you just can’t work out how to move on. Here are 5 major reasons why you are stuck and unable to move on from your ex.

1-You are lonely.

You are used to being with that person and talking to them, spending time with them. Maybe you had them around whenever you need them. You might have cut off friends or spent less time with friends during the relationship. Now feel like you are lonely. The best way to combat this is to make time for your friends and family again. Go out and do what makes you feel good and be surrounded by others.

2-You are still connected on social media or through friends.

You can see what they are getting up to and what they are posting about throughout the day. This is reminding you of them and is holding you back from getting over them. Don’t worry about burning bridges or looking like the bad guy, look after yourself first.

3- You lost confidence during the relationship.

If you started to feel unappreciated or unacknowledged by your partner while you were with them then it is likely that you blamed yourself. Maybe you lost some confidence. This is not a reflection on you and use this time to build yourself back up.

4- You are not accepting all the negative things and are only focusing on the good times you had.

This is illogical and it is vital that you work to recognise the reasons why they are not right for you.

5- You are grieving the relationship potential.

You are sad about all the things you could have been instead of acknowledging all the things that the relationship actually was!

If you need help getting over your ex, request your free 20 minute chat with me here to get started on your journey to happiness.


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Self-care and self-love

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Self-care and self-love is so important because ladies we have to love and care for ourselves! Evolution says that women have an innate need to care for others. This is true, however, I’ve come to realise that in order to do this effectively, we must first be feeling whole in ourselves.

Too often, we as women get so caught up helping everyone around us, taking care of other people, thinking and over-thinking about what other people are feeling/doing/needing/thinking – it’s exhausting just writing about it!

I’ve written a list (don’t we all just love a list) of all the things I personally do to make myself feel loved and cared for by myself and wanted to share this with you.

Spoil yourself- you deserve it! Enjoy my self-care and self-love tips.

1) Self-care and self-love rule number one

bubble baths never get old. Always seems like a faff, right, when you can just get a shower and get on with all the other jobs and things that need getting done…….okay pause— take the time to do this one once in a while because the calming effects are priceless. Lots of bubbles, wine (or a cuppa) a programme or movie (if you have a waterproof cover on your tablet) whilst chilling in the bath will do your mind wonders!

2) Pamper time….

okay I know we are all super busy all the time with a million things to do but this can take as little as 20-30 minutes depending on how OTT or not you go. Put on a face mask, paint those nails, sort those blocked pores on your nose out tweeze away those stray hairs around the ugly sister brow and make yourself feel beautiful. Confidence looks good on you and this pamper time will make you feel super pretty. It’s worth it ladies!!!!

3) Have a friend over for a feel-good girlie movie afternoon/evening.

This is so important… we need to have time with our girlfriends! Put pjs on if you like, pig out if you must, get the popcorn out and have a super girlie movie night. (Even if you do end up missing half the film because you are too busy sharing secrets, laughter and chatting too much…..) this is what it’s all about!

4) Ok this may be my favourite. Get outside!!!

It is so important to get that vitamin D so make sure if you see even a hint of sunshine get outside and get that goodness into your body.

5) You might hate me for bringing this one up but…

exercise is so good for the mind. Honestly you don’t have to cycle or go for a run everyday but find something to do that you enjoy and gets you moving. Dance, buy a hula-hoop, practice yoga, do whatever takes your fancy but this is so so good for us!

6) Eat well!

Okay we all love a treat now and again but theres no getting away from the goodness in certain foods and the fact that naughty food can make us later feel hideous and sluggish. Try to get those veggies in and drink enough of water. We are after all just like a house plant although a little more complicated………

7) Laugh and smile…

whenever you can. Life is wonderful even when we forget that it is. We have all heard that laughter is the best cure. But there is some science behind this! If you smile even when unhappy, you can trick your mind into thinking you are happy and this makes you feel better! Try it now…… smile… you know you want to!

That’s all for today ladies- try at least one of these self-care and self-love tips weekly to start off with. Thank me later!!!

Self-care and self-love comes easier when you have somebody to guide you and rebuild your confidence together with you. If you need one on one personal support to get over a breakup, I offer a free 20 minute chat to get started- book yours here today!


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An interview with Shanice of Breakup-Help

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An interview with Shanice of Breakup-Help! Let’s begin. Who or what has shaped who you are?

I have always had a very strong thirst to prove myself. I want to learn about anything and everything. As a child, I would always get frustrated at myself if I couldn’t achieve something or get something right the first time. I’ve always been extremely determinedowever also very introverted. Being the girl who usually knew the answer to the question in class but was too shy to raise my hand and say so!

Today I have become incredibly self-aware, compassionate and reflective in everything I do. My experiences both during my childhood and adult life have shaped the person I am today. This includes my own personal relationships with others. I believe the more I learn to know who I am as a person the more empowered I continue to feel. This is what shapes me as a person.

Why are you passionate about what you do?

What I do requires a high level of emotional intelligence and I have always considered myself an ‘empath’ in so many words. As a woman I believe that it is important to be able to grow through (not ‘go through’) a breakup. This way you can emerge happier and more in control of your future and your life. It is my belief that all women should have a chance to speak openly about how they are feeling and have somebody respond with genuine understanding, knowledge and empathy without making them feel uncomfortable and this is what I am able to do. I have the knowledge and tools to really help women come out of the other side of a breakup.

What motivates you?

Making a true difference in the lives of the people I work with is what motivates me. I strive for excellence in what I do. I look forward to all the positive outcomes and amazing transformations. It’s great to see that I have helped to make that happen.

What are your greatest strengths?

I’m a natural listener and empath therefore, always try to bring positivity to everyone and everything around me. My aim is to make everything in my life beautiful. It is so rewarding to me to dig deep and uncover issues that I can help find solutions to. I enjoy the challenge and I also pride myself on being open-minded and non-judgemental. I’d like to share with others what I know works in order to enrich other people’s lives.

The final question for an interview with Shanice at breakup-help- What is the best piece of advice you’ve had?

There is no such thing as a hopeless situation in my opinion. Every single circumstance in your life can change. Everything is ‘figure-out-able’.

If you are or somebody you know is struggling through a breakup, I offer a helpful and free 20 minute chat to get started on guiding you to a happier you. Book your session now.

If you found this article interesting, head over to our interview with Joy Milani at ‘Girl, just startup’ to read more about the owner and founder of breakup-help here


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Getting Over Someone – 5 Quick Tips.

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Getting over someone – knowing how to do this can be a struggle especially without the right guidance and support. You may be feeling abandoned, lonely, stuck, emotional and like it is the end of the world and it may be starting to affect your life in a negative way.

We all know how upsetting and difficult it can be getting over someone and it is important that you take action to help yourself come out of the other side as effectively as possible.

If you are struggling to get over your ex and need some help to cope with a breakup, here are some quick tips that I recommend you remind yourself of during the process:

5 Quick tips:

1. Talk about it. Vent. This will facilitate your healing big time! Don’t underestimate the value of this. This is what is so important about what breakup-help does! Book your first free chat with us here today.

2. Find an emotional release. This will encourage new perspectives. An example could be to start going to the gym! Or join a boxing club.

3. Find yourself again. It is critical to regain a strong self-concept. Do all the things you put off doing or forgot you wanted to do before the big relationship happened.

4.Set goals for yourself, however small. Always have things you are aiming for.

5. Remind yourself of the bad and awful not just the good things about your ex. Balance our those irrational thoughts. See past the rose-tinted spectacles!

Getting over someone


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Free breakup guide now live!

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Free breakup guide now live! This is now available for download here today! The long awaited breakup guide has been released and is ready for download so what are you waiting for? Get started on your journey to happiness after your breakup now.

Are you struggling to get over your ex? Are you still thinking about your ex and missing them? Then you need to take the first step towards happiness after your breakup – request your free breakup guide download here on breakup-help now!

book your first telephone session with our specialist coach for FREE here.

Time to get over your ex because you need to stop being comfortable with the pain. This is how we can help you. Our program can get you over your ex and can help you find yourself again. So what are you waiting for? Start the journey to learning to be happy without them.

At breakup-help, we can get you feeling better after a breakup with a specially made program which is delivered through telephone sessions with us. Find out more on our ‘how does it work?’ page.

So, get in touch with us now to find out more and to get started on your journey to happiness.

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Breakup songs: Top 10

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So you are going through a breakup…..it’s not feeling easy and finding the courage to move on can be tricky. Maybe you are feeling like you need a good old fashioned sing your heart out day. So, in aid of this, here’s my top 10 list of breakup songs that be useful in building your confidence back up and will show you that it is an experience that is shared by so many other humans. You are not alone. Enjoy…here’s to moving on!

10) Camila Cabello- Consequences
9) Dean Lewis- Be Alright
8) Mandi Crimmins- Making me hate you
7) Halsey- Without Me
6) Maximillian- Beautiful Scars
5) Selena Gomez- Lose you to Love me
4) Noah Cyrus- July
3) Billie Eilish- No time to die
2) Miley Cyrus- Slide Away
1) Madison Beer- Selfish

I hope you enjoy my breakup songs: top 10 as much as I do. If you or someone you know is going through a breakup, breakup-help can offer a free 20 minute chat to help get you started with moving on from your ex. Book yours here today.

If you aren’t quite ready to talk to someone you can always download our free breakup guide here.

It’s time to get over your ex and find yourself again!


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normal stages of a breakup and how to get over these with the help of a specialist breakup coach. The stages to work through with a professional to get you feeling better after a breakup. Remember to do the things that are mentioned here as well as speaking with someone who knows how to help you.

Normal Stages of a Break-Up

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Normal stages of a breakup. Relationships can break-up for many reasons. Often, it’s no-one’s fault and nobody is to blame, sometimes things just don’t work out.

We have found that normal stages of a breakup begin with the following feelings. You will feel sad, angry and/or let down after a break-up – you are not alone and this is normal! But you may need necessary guidance and support to get past these natural stages of a breakup. Book your free 20 minute telephone session here to find out more on how to do this.

Sometimes you need to look after yourself as priority. We recommend some things here to make things easier for yourself. Make sure you remember to do the basic things such as; hang out with friends, eat well and get enough sleep. Very importantly, you must find someone to talk to to work through the challenging feelings you are experiencing, such as with our specialist breakup coach here.

After a break-up you may experience a range of challenging feelings, such as sadness, anger or guilt. This can also lead to feelings of rejection, confusion or loneliness. If this sounds like you, book your free session to get started with breakup-help here and begin your journey with us today!

If you have already reached out to us for a free 20 minute telephone session and are just waiting to get started, here are some tips we suggest to help you in the meantime:

Give yourself some space because you don’t have to be with others all the time. If you feel like being alone and crying for an hour by all means do this. Keep busy. Take time out for you. Talk to friends and family and others who can support you. Try not to use alcohol and other drugs to deal with the pain. Give it time. Try to get regular sleep and exercise. Talk to someone who knows how to help you!

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