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Stop feeling lonely after a breakup

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Stop feeling lonely after a breakup. Are you experiencing a crippling sense of loneliness since you became newly single? You are not alone in feeling alone!

Lots of women are opening up lately about feelings of loneliness. Opening up about feeling this way shows vulnerability and allows others to express their own feelings on the matter. Speaking about it is the first step to stop feeling lonely after a breakup.

These moments of feeling lonely and low will ultimately make you stronger. It will cause you to feel so uncomfortable that the only thing to do is grow from it.

Allow the loneliness you feel to force you out of your comfort zone to meet new people and try new things.

Here are some ideas;

1- get in touch with an old friend who you haven’t spoken to for a really long time.

2- find your passion … the things that sparks fire in your stomach

3- pick a new hobby and dive straight into it

4- make plans. Plan as many things as you can!

5- join a class. Get a friend to go with you if you are nervous.

6- remove toxic people from your life to make room for the good ones!

7- learn to be happy spending time on your own. (I will be posting an article on ways to train yourself to do this next week!)

8- feel lonely and accept it for what it is. That is: a feeling. Allow it to be just that and sit with it for a few minutes or as long as you need. Allow yourself to feel low but then pick yourself back up at some point soon and do something 1-7 off of this list!!!

When you can’t enjoy spending time on your own without feeling lonely it will cause you to stay in bad relationships with people who you lack positive connections with. This is because it gives you a temporary fix of comfort but is not good for you in the long run.

If YOU don’t enjoy spending time with YOU, then how can you expect someone else to want to? But also be prepared to be happy and comfortable on your own and allow positive relationships with people to enhance your life only. Know you will be fine with or without others, because you’ve already built a strong foundation of self love.

If you are feeling lonely after a breakup and need some help, book your free 20 minute chat with me here.


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Self-care and self-love

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Self-care and self-love is so important because ladies we have to love and care for ourselves! Evolution says that women have an innate need to care for others. This is true, however, I’ve come to realise that in order to do this effectively, we must first be feeling whole in ourselves.

Too often, we as women get so caught up helping everyone around us, taking care of other people, thinking and over-thinking about what other people are feeling/doing/needing/thinking – it’s exhausting just writing about it!

I’ve written a list (don’t we all just love a list) of all the things I personally do to make myself feel loved and cared for by myself and wanted to share this with you.

Spoil yourself- you deserve it! Enjoy my self-care and self-love tips.

1) Self-care and self-love rule number one

bubble baths never get old. Always seems like a faff, right, when you can just get a shower and get on with all the other jobs and things that need getting done…….okay pause— take the time to do this one once in a while because the calming effects are priceless. Lots of bubbles, wine (or a cuppa) a programme or movie (if you have a waterproof cover on your tablet) whilst chilling in the bath will do your mind wonders!

2) Pamper time….

okay I know we are all super busy all the time with a million things to do but this can take as little as 20-30 minutes depending on how OTT or not you go. Put on a face mask, paint those nails, sort those blocked pores on your nose out tweeze away those stray hairs around the ugly sister brow and make yourself feel beautiful. Confidence looks good on you and this pamper time will make you feel super pretty. It’s worth it ladies!!!!

3) Have a friend over for a feel-good girlie movie afternoon/evening.

This is so important… we need to have time with our girlfriends! Put pjs on if you like, pig out if you must, get the popcorn out and have a super girlie movie night. (Even if you do end up missing half the film because you are too busy sharing secrets, laughter and chatting too much…..) this is what it’s all about!

4) Ok this may be my favourite. Get outside!!!

It is so important to get that vitamin D so make sure if you see even a hint of sunshine get outside and get that goodness into your body.

5) You might hate me for bringing this one up but…

exercise is so good for the mind. Honestly you don’t have to cycle or go for a run everyday but find something to do that you enjoy and gets you moving. Dance, buy a hula-hoop, practice yoga, do whatever takes your fancy but this is so so good for us!

6) Eat well!

Okay we all love a treat now and again but theres no getting away from the goodness in certain foods and the fact that naughty food can make us later feel hideous and sluggish. Try to get those veggies in and drink enough of water. We are after all just like a house plant although a little more complicated………

7) Laugh and smile…

whenever you can. Life is wonderful even when we forget that it is. We have all heard that laughter is the best cure. But there is some science behind this! If you smile even when unhappy, you can trick your mind into thinking you are happy and this makes you feel better! Try it now…… smile… you know you want to!

That’s all for today ladies- try at least one of these self-care and self-love tips weekly to start off with. Thank me later!!!

Self-care and self-love comes easier when you have somebody to guide you and rebuild your confidence together with you. If you need one on one personal support to get over a breakup, I offer a free 20 minute chat to get started- book yours here today!