What to do when your relationship is ending. It can be a very challenging thing to accept that the relationship you have put so much effort and love into is coming to an end. There are ways to make this process a little easier. Here are my top 5 tips.
Talk it out. Try to reflect on the relationship and be as pragmatic as you can about the reasons why it is coming to an end. Is your partner not meeting your needs? Do you have different life goals? Are you unable to compromise to a level at which you are both happy? Try speaking to a professional to try to form a clearer picture of the situation. We offer a free 20 minute initial telephone call.
Think about your own future. What do you want for yourself? Is it something that cannot be achieved because of the issues within your relationship? Think about the life you want for yourself and what makes you feel fulfilled and happy. Try to remember that your relationship with yourself is the most important one you will have during your lifetime.
Spend time with friends. Remember who was there for you before and who you know will be there for you in the future. Do things with your friends that make you feel happy or relaxed. Spend time socialising and make sure you are not spending too much time alone to wallow in negative thoughts or feelings that may be occurring at this confusing time.
Be kind to yourself. You may be blaming yourself for the relationship coming to an end. You are likely thinking about the things you didn’t do perfectly and thinking that if you had done those things differently maybe things would still be working out. Try to let go of these what ifs because it is a misuse of your imagination! Nobody can ever know what would have changed certain outcomes or whether your life would be better or worse. You cannot be held solely responsible for the relationship coming to an end.
Work through your feelings. Try to prepare yourself for the stages you go through during the breakup if this is the next step. There are many different steps you will take to get to a level of acceptance after the breakup. We can help guide you through the process and support you on what to do when your relationship is ending- book a free telephone session here.